VERY remote from common conceptions are the numerous and
restless anxieties, by which female happiness
is disturbed. A solitary Philosopher would imagine
ladies born with an exemption from care and sorrow, lulled
in perpetual quiet, and feasted with unmingled pleasure; for what can interrupt
the content of those, upon whom one age has labored after another
to confer honors, and accumulate immunities; those to whom rudeness
is infamy, and insult is cowardice; whose eye commands the brave, and whose smile
softens the fevers; whom the sailor travels to adorn, the soldier bleeds to defend,
and the poet wears out life to celebrate; who claim tribute from every art and
science, and for whom all who approach them endeavour to multiply delight,
without requiring from them any return but williness to be pleased?
Surely, among these favorites of nature, thus unacquainted with toil
and danger, felicity must have fixed her residence; they must know only the changes
of more vivid or more gentle joys; their life must always move either to the slow
or sprightly melody of the lyre of gladness; they can never assemble
but to pleasure, or retire but to peace.
Such should be the thoughts of every man who should hover at a distance
round the world, and know it only by conjecture and speculation. But
experience will soon discover how easily those are disgusted who have been made nice by plenty,
and tender by indulgence. He will soon see to how many dangers power
is exposed which has no other guard than youth and beauty,
and how easily that tranquillity is molested which can
only be soothed with the songs of flattery. It is impossible to supply
wants as fast as an idle imagination may be able to form them,
or to remove all inconveniences by which elegance refined into impatience
may be offended. None are so hard to please as those whose satiety of pleasure
make weary of themselves; nor any so readily provoked as those who have
always courted with an emulation of civility.
There are indeed some strokes which the envy of fate aims immediately at the
fair. The mistress of Catullus wept for her sparrow many centuries ago,
and lap dogs will be sometimes sick in the present age. The most
fashionable lutestring is subject to flaws; a lace, the pride of
Brussels, may be torn by a careless washer; a picture may drop from a watch;
or the triumph of a new suit may be interrupted on the first day of its
enjoyment, and all distinctions of dress unexpectedly obliterated by an
unhappy mourning.
R.